Ah Fang has reached the ripe age for dating and marriage, but she
is not in the right place.
Working long hours in an electronics plant in the booming city of
Shenzhen, South China's Guangdong Province, she hardly has any
time, nor money, for going out with boys.
Ah
Fang is one of 30-40 million female-migrant workers who toil in
China's coastal boomtowns. Although experts have estimated there
are more men in the country's "moving population" than women, in
many plants where the work requires dexterity rather than lifting
heavy stuff, women outnumber men by as much as nine to one.
In
Ah Fang's plant there are 20 men out of a total pool of 100. She is
separated from them in both work and living quarters. She rarely
ventures out of the compound of the factory. The outside world is
so chaotic, she said, that she feels safe staying in her dormitory
reading romance novels after work.
When her coworkers get into steady relationships, they would give
out candies to acknowledge it. And they would often move out to
tiny apartments rented nearby.
A
sense of unease lingered when Ah Fang first learned of such acts of
premarital sex, but now she doesn't raise an eyebrow any more. It's
all so natural.
When they want to get married legally, they would go back to their
hometowns for the ceremony. But they would take off again for the
big city. "The countryside is so boring. All my ex-schoolmates talk
about is trivial things in their daily lives," said a newly-wed
couple from Ah Fang's village in Neijiang, Southwest China's
Sichuan Province.
Few country girls would date or marry local men. Some complained
they found Cantonese men to be male chauvinists. The problem is, no
matter how long they work in the cities, it would be hard for them
to get the urban-residency permit.
For those who are desperate to stay, some would become virtual
concubines of city slickers, usually people with small
businesses.
Research shows that after a migrant worker has been in a city for a
while, he or she would have hopes of marriage. Gender difference
plays a big role in adapting to the local environment.
Male migrants usually do not harbour the notion of marrying into
the city but females want to take a step up via marriage. Girls
would hesitate to hook up with guys who have never left their
villages.
Dating among themselves is not easy. Besides the lopsided ratio in
gender distribution, there is the lack of understanding of each
other's background. Some of Ah Fang's friends would live with their
companions for years without even knowing whether the guys already
have wives at home.
Living together is also costly. Some female migrants spend a
quarter of their meagre salaries of about 300-600 yuan (US$36-72)
on contraception, said an official at Shenzhen Family Planning
Association. The women wouldn't see these relationships as
emotionally reliable. It's more often for keeping each other
company.
At
the age of 25 Ah Fang still has no opportunity of finding Mr.
Right. She is stuck in the physical and emotional limbo where her
youth is given completely to the assembly line.
(China Daily October 21, 2003)
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